Ayn\u0131 ili\u015fkide, iki farkl\u0131 yaln\u0131zl\u0131k ya\u015fanabilir.
\nBiri mesafeden\u2026
\nDi\u011feri fazla yak\u0131nl\u0131ktan.<\/p>\n
Baz\u0131 insanlar ili\u015fkide hep alttan al\u0131r.
\nBaz\u0131lar\u0131 susar, geri \u00e7ekilir.
\nBaz\u0131lar\u0131 uyum sa\u011flad\u0131k\u00e7a g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez h\u00e2le gelir.<\/p>\n
Ve sonra \u015fu c\u00fcmleler belirir:
\n\u201cBen bu ili\u015fkide neredeyim?\u201d
\n\u201cBeni ger\u00e7ekten g\u00f6r\u00fcyor mu?\u201d<\/p>\n
A\u015fk \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sevgisizlikten de\u011fil,
\nyanl\u0131\u015f ayarlanm\u0131\u015f bir mesafeden yorulur.<\/p>\n
Yak\u0131nl\u0131k, Kendinden Vazge\u00e7mek De\u011fildir<\/p>\n
Toplum bize \u015funu \u00f6\u011fretti:
\nSeviyorsan uyum sa\u011fla.
\n\u0130dare et.
\nB\u00fcy\u00fctme.
\nSessiz kal.<\/p>\n
Ama ili\u015fkide s\u00fcrekli uyum sa\u011flamak,
\nbir noktadan sonra kendinle temas\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmek demektir.<\/p>\n
Ger\u00e7ek yak\u0131nl\u0131k:
\n\u2022\tKendini feda etmekle de\u011fil
\n\u2022\tSusarak huzur sa\u011flamakla de\u011fil
\n\u2022\tHep anlayan taraf olmakla de\u011fil<\/p>\n
kendin olarak ba\u011f kurabilmekle olu\u015fur.<\/p>\n
\u201cA\u015fk\u0131n Mesafesi\u201d G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi Ne Yapar?<\/p>\n
Lev\u00e2ic\u2019in bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi, ili\u015fkilere \u201cdaha iyi ileti\u015fim kur\u201d tavsiyesiyle de\u011fil;
\nempati, s\u0131n\u0131r ve bireysellik dengesi \u00fczerinden yakla\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmede ki\u015fi:
\n\u2022\tEmpati ile s\u0131n\u0131r aras\u0131nda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 denge kurmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir
\n\u2022\t\u0130leti\u015fimde daha g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr ve duyulur h\u00e2le gelir
\n\u2022\tUyumlulu\u011fun \u00f6zveri de\u011fil, ba\u011f kurma oldu\u011funu fark eder
\n\u2022\tTolerans kapasitesini geni\u015fletirken kendini kaybetmez
\n\u2022\t\u0130li\u015fki i\u00e7inde birey olarak var olmay\u0131 yeniden tan\u0131mlar <\/p>\n
Bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme, ili\u015fkiyi kurtarmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil;
\nili\u015fki i\u00e7indeki seni g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr k\u0131lmak i\u00e7indir.<\/p>\n
Bu G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeden Sonra Hayatta Ne De\u011fi\u015fir?<\/p>\n
Dramatik de\u011fil, ama derin de\u011fi\u015fimler olur:
\n\u2022\tKonu\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u015feyler azal\u0131r
\n\u2022\tYanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lmalar s\u0131kla\u015fmaz
\n\u2022\t\u0130li\u015fkide y\u00fck tek tarafa binmez
\n\u2022\t\u201cHep ben idare ediyorum\u201d hissi \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcl\u00fcr
\n\u2022\tYak\u0131nl\u0131k daha g\u00fcvenli, daha ger\u00e7ek olur<\/p>\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k bilirsin:
\nYak\u0131nl\u0131k, mesafesiz olmak de\u011fildir.
\nMesafe de sevgisizlik de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n
Kimler \u0130\u00e7in Bu G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme \u00d6zellikle Anlaml\u0131d\u0131r?
\n\u2022\tS\u00fcrekli alttan alanlar
\n\u2022\tTart\u0131\u015fmalarda sessizle\u015fenler
\n\u2022\tDuygular\u0131n\u0131 ifade etmekte zorlananlar
\n\u2022\tPartneriyle s\u0131k yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lma ya\u015fayanlar
\n\u2022\t\u0130li\u015fkide kendini geri plana atanlar<\/p>\n
E\u011fer ili\u015fkilerinde s\u0131k s\u0131k \u201cbeni duymuyor\u201d diyorsan,
\norada mesafeye yeniden bakmak gerekir.<\/p>\n
Ocak Ay\u0131 \u0130\u00e7in Bir Davet<\/p>\n
Yeni bir y\u0131l, a\u015fkta daha \u00e7ok \u00e7abalamay\u0131 de\u011fil;
\ndaha do\u011fru yerde durmay\u0131 \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Lev\u00e2ic\u2019te konseptli g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeler, ili\u015fkileri \u201ckim hakl\u0131?\u201d sorusundan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r.
\n\u201cBiz burada nas\u0131l temas ediyoruz?\u201d sorusuna getirir.<\/p>\n
Bazen sorun sevgide de\u011fildir.
\nSorun, sevgiyi kendini kaybetmeden ya\u015fayamamaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Ger\u00e7ek yak\u0131nl\u0131k,
\nkendin olarak kalabildi\u011fin yerde ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ayn\u0131 ili\u015fkide, iki farkl\u0131 yaln\u0131zl\u0131k ya\u015fanabilir. Biri mesafeden\u2026 Di\u011feri fazla yak\u0131nl\u0131ktan. Baz\u0131 insanlar ili\u015fkide hep alttan al\u0131r. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 susar, geri \u00e7ekilir. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 uyum sa\u011flad\u0131k\u00e7a g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez h\u00e2le gelir. Ve sonra \u015fu c\u00fcmleler belirir: \u201cBen bu ili\u015fkide neredeyim?\u201d \u201cBeni ger\u00e7ekten g\u00f6r\u00fcyor mu?\u201d A\u015fk \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sevgisizlikten de\u011fil, yanl\u0131\u015f ayarlanm\u0131\u015f bir mesafeden yorulur. Yak\u0131nl\u0131k, Kendinden Vazge\u00e7mek De\u011fildir Toplum […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":53815,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"content-type":"","jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":{"format":"standard","jnews_video_option_group":[[]],"override":[{"template":"1","parallax":"1","fullscreen":"1","layout":"right-sidebar","sidebar":"singlepost-widget","second_sidebar":"default-sidebar","sticky_sidebar":"1","share_position":"float","share_float_style":"share-normal","show_featured":"1","show_post_meta":"1","show_post_author":"1","show_post_author_image":"1","show_post_date":"1","post_date_format":"default","post_date_format_custom":"Y\/m\/d","show_post_category":"1","show_post_reading_time":"0","post_reading_time_wpm":"300","post_calculate_word_method":"str_word_count","show_zoom_button":"1","zoom_button_out_step":"2","zoom_button_in_step":"3","show_post_tag":"1","show_popup_post":"1","show_comment_section":"1","number_popup_post":"2","show_author_box":"1","show_post_related":"1"}],"image_override":[{"single_post_thumbnail_size":"no-crop","single_post_gallery_size":"crop-500"}],"trending_post_position":"meta","trending_post_label":"Trend","sponsored_post_label":"Sponsorlu","disable_ad":"0","subtitle":"Birlikteyken Kendin Kalabiliyor musun?"},"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_override_bookmark_settings":{"override_bookmark_button":"0","override_show_bookmark_button":"0"},"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_paywall_metabox":{"paragraph_limit":"2","enable_premium_post":"0","enable_free_post":"0","override_paragraph_limit":"0","enable_preview_post":"0","enable_preview_video":"0"},"jnews_review":[],"enable_review":"","type":"percentage","name":"","summary":"","brand":"","sku":"","good":[],"bad":[],"score_override":"","override_value":"","rating":[],"price":[],"jnews_override_counter":{"view_counter_number":"0","share_counter_number":"0","like_counter_number":"0","dislike_counter_number":"0"},"jnews_post_split":{"post_split":[{"template":"1","tag":"h2","numbering":"asc","mode":"normal","first":"0","enable_toc":"0","toc_type":"normal"}]},"jnews_podcast_option":[],"jnews_podcast_series":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[634,65,47],"tags":[3026,774,3034,817,3029,324,3032,2802,210,3028,702,3027,3031,3030,1317,2967,3033,1344,719,2369],"jnews-series":[],"class_list":["post-53848","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-iliski-yetkinlikleri","category-kendimle-olan-iliskim","category-romantik-iliskilerim","tag-askin-mesafesi","tag-bireysellik","tag-duygusal-temas","tag-duygusal-yakinlik","tag-duygusal-yorgunluk","tag-empati","tag-gercek-yakinlik","tag-gorunurluk","tag-iliski-dinamikleri","tag-iliski-ici-yalnizlik","tag-iliski-yetkinligi","tag-iliskide-denge","tag-iliskide-mesafe","tag-kendin-olarak-kalmak","tag-kendini-ifade-etme","tag-levaic-gorusmesi","tag-sessiz-kalma","tag-sinir-koyma","tag-uyum-saglama","tag-yanlis-anlasilma"],"yoast_head":"\n