Bir an geliyor\u2026
\nSes y\u00fckseliyor.
\nS\u00f6zler sertle\u015fiyor.
\nYa da tam tersi: i\u00e7e \u00e7ekiliyorsun, susuyorsun, kapan\u0131yorsun.<\/p>\n
Sonra geriye \u015fu c\u00fcmle kal\u0131yor:
\n\u201cAsl\u0131nda bunu s\u00f6ylemek istememi\u015ftim.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u0130li\u015fkiler \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sevgisizlikten de\u011fil,
\nreg\u00fcle edilemeyen duygulardan y\u0131pran\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Duygu Ya\u015famakla Duyguya Kap\u0131lmak Ayn\u0131 \u015eey De\u011fildir<\/p>\n
Duygusal olmak; hissetmek demektir.
\nAma duygular\u0131n y\u00f6netimi eline ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, ili\u015fki bir ba\u011f alan\u0131 olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar,
\nbir savunma alan\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.
\n\u2022\t\u00d6fke ba\u011f\u0131rmaya
\n\u2022\tKayg\u0131 kontrol etmeye
\n\u2022\tHayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 geri \u00e7ekilmeye
\n\u2022\tSab\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131k ani kopu\u015flara<\/p>\n
evrilir.<\/p>\n
Sorun duygular\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 de\u011fil;
\nduygularla ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u201cDuygular\u0131 Y\u00f6net\u201d G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi Ne Yapar?<\/p>\n
Lev\u00e2ic\u2019in bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi, ki\u015fiye \u201csakin ol\u201d demek i\u00e7in de\u011fil;
\nduygusal reg\u00fclasyon yetkinli\u011fini yap\u0131land\u0131rmak i\u00e7in tasarlanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmede ki\u015fi:
\n\u2022\tDuygular\u0131n\u0131 patlama\u2013\u00e7ekilme d\u00f6ng\u00fcs\u00fcne girmeden y\u00f6netmeyi \u00f6\u011frenir
\n\u2022\t\u00c7at\u0131\u015fma an\u0131nda reg\u00fclasyon sa\u011flayarak ba\u011fda kalabilir
\n\u2022\tSab\u0131rs\u0131z kararlar yerine s\u00fcre\u00e7 fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131 geli\u015ftirir
\n\u2022\t\u0130li\u015fkilerde tutarl\u0131l\u0131k ve dinginlik yarat\u0131r
\n\u2022\tTepki vermek yerine bilin\u00e7li yan\u0131t \u00fcretir <\/p>\n
Bu bir \u201c\u00f6fke kontrol\u00fc\u201d g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi de\u011fildir.
\nBu, duyguyla temas edip ba\u011fda kalabilme g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesidir.<\/p>\n
Bu G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeden Sonra Hayatta Ne De\u011fi\u015fir?<\/p>\n
De\u011fi\u015fim dramatik de\u011fil; ama belirgindir:
\n\u2022\tTart\u0131\u015fmalar kopu\u015fa gitmez
\n\u2022\tSessizlik cezaya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmez
\n\u2022\tAyn\u0131 konular tekrar tekrar patlamaz
\n\u2022\t\u0130li\u015fkide g\u00fcvenli bir ritim olu\u015fur
\n\u2022\tKi\u015fi kendine \u201chakim olmak\u201d zorunda kalmaz; kendini y\u00f6netir<\/p>\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k bilirsin:
\nDuygular bast\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda de\u011fil,
\nreg\u00fcle edildi\u011finde sakinle\u015fir.<\/p>\n
Kimler \u0130\u00e7in Bu G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme \u00d6zellikle D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcd\u00fcr?
\n\u2022\tDuygusal dalgalanmalar\u0131 yo\u011fun ya\u015fayanlar
\n\u2022\tTart\u0131\u015fmalarda kendini kaybedenler
\n\u2022\tSab\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131k nedeniyle ili\u015fki kopu\u015flar\u0131 ya\u015fayanlar
\n\u2022\t\u201cKendime h\u00e2kim olam\u0131yorum\u201d hissi ta\u015f\u0131yanlar
\n\u2022\t\u0130li\u015fkilerde f\u0131rt\u0131na de\u011fil, s\u00fcreklilik isteyenler<\/p>\n
E\u011fer ili\u015fkilerinde s\u0131k s\u0131k \u201csonra pi\u015fman oluyorum\u201d diyorsan,
\nbu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme tam oraya bakar.<\/p>\n
Ocak Ay\u0131 \u0130\u00e7in Sessiz Ama G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc Bir Hat\u0131rlatma<\/p>\n
Yeni bir y\u0131l, duygular\u0131n\u0131 yok sayman\u0131 de\u011fil;
\nonlarla daha olgun bir ili\u015fki kurman\u0131 davet eder.<\/p>\n
Lev\u00e2ic\u2019te konseptli g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeler, duygular\u0131 bast\u0131rmaz.
\nAnlamland\u0131r\u0131r. D\u00fczenler. Ta\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bazen ili\u015fkiler zor de\u011fildir.
\nSadece duygular, y\u00f6netilecek bir alan ar\u0131yordur.<\/p>\n
Ak\u0131\u015f, duygular sustu\u011funda de\u011fil;
\nyerini buldu\u011funda ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bir an geliyor\u2026 Ses y\u00fckseliyor. S\u00f6zler sertle\u015fiyor. Ya da tam tersi: i\u00e7e \u00e7ekiliyorsun, susuyorsun, kapan\u0131yorsun. Sonra geriye \u015fu c\u00fcmle kal\u0131yor: \u201cAsl\u0131nda bunu s\u00f6ylemek istememi\u015ftim.\u201d \u0130li\u015fkiler \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sevgisizlikten de\u011fil, reg\u00fcle edilemeyen duygulardan y\u0131pran\u0131r. Duygu Ya\u015famakla Duyguya Kap\u0131lmak Ayn\u0131 \u015eey De\u011fildir Duygusal olmak; hissetmek demektir. Ama duygular\u0131n y\u00f6netimi eline ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, ili\u015fki bir ba\u011f alan\u0131 olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":53819,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","content-type":"","jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":{"format":"standard","jnews_video_option_group":[[]],"override":[{"template":"1","parallax":"1","fullscreen":"1","layout":"right-sidebar","sidebar":"singlepost-widget","second_sidebar":"default-sidebar","sticky_sidebar":"1","share_position":"float","share_float_style":"share-normal","show_featured":"1","show_post_meta":"1","show_post_author":"1","show_post_author_image":"1","show_post_date":"1","post_date_format":"default","post_date_format_custom":"Y\/m\/d","show_post_category":"1","show_post_reading_time":"0","post_reading_time_wpm":"300","post_calculate_word_method":"str_word_count","show_zoom_button":"1","zoom_button_out_step":"2","zoom_button_in_step":"3","show_post_tag":"1","show_popup_post":"1","show_comment_section":"1","number_popup_post":"2","show_author_box":"1","show_post_related":"1"}],"image_override":[{"single_post_thumbnail_size":"no-crop","single_post_gallery_size":"crop-500"}],"trending_post_position":"meta","trending_post_label":"Trend","sponsored_post_label":"Sponsorlu","disable_ad":"0","subtitle":"Duygular Kontrolden \u00c7\u0131k\u0131nca, \u0130li\u015fkiler Savunmaya Ge\u00e7er"},"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_override_bookmark_settings":{"override_bookmark_button":"0","override_show_bookmark_button":"0"},"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_paywall_metabox":{"paragraph_limit":"2","enable_premium_post":"0","enable_free_post":"0","override_paragraph_limit":"0","enable_preview_post":"0","enable_preview_video":"0"},"jnews_review":[],"enable_review":"","type":"percentage","name":"","summary":"","brand":"","sku":"","good":[],"bad":[],"score_override":"","override_value":"","rating":[],"price":[],"jnews_override_counter":{"view_counter_number":"0","share_counter_number":"0","like_counter_number":"0","dislike_counter_number":"0"},"jnews_post_split":{"post_split":[{"template":"1","tag":"h2","numbering":"asc","mode":"normal","first":"0","enable_toc":"0","toc_type":"normal"}]},"jnews_podcast_option":[],"jnews_podcast_series":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[205,266,634,630,65,47,212,632],"tags":[1425,3003,750,2997,3009,2998,783,731,2654,3008,3000,3005,3007,702,2999,3010,2967,917,3011,3001,3006,3002,2828,3004],"jnews-series":[],"class_list":["post-53844","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-iliskilerim","category-cinsellikle-olan-iliskim","category-iliski-yetkinlikleri","category-is-iliskilerim","category-kendimle-olan-iliskim","category-romantik-iliskilerim","category-sosyal-iliskilerim","category-toplumla-olan-iliskilerim","tag-bag-kurma","tag-bilincli-tepki","tag-catisma-yonetimi","tag-duygulari-yonetmek","tag-duygularla-temas","tag-duygusal-dalgalanma","tag-duygusal-denge","tag-duygusal-farkindalik","tag-duygusal-regulasyon","tag-guvenli-ritim","tag-ice-cekilme","tag-iliski-dinginligi","tag-iliski-kopuslari","tag-iliski-yetkinligi","tag-iliskisel-iletisim","tag-kendini-yonetmek","tag-levaic-gorusmesi","tag-ofke-kontrolu","tag-olgun-iliski-kurmak","tag-patlama-cekilme-dongusu","tag-pismanlik-hissi","tag-sabirsizlik","tag-savunma-mekanizmalari","tag-surec-farkindaligi"],"yoast_head":"\n