Hayat\u0131nda verdi\u011fin kararlar\u0131n ne kadar\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten sana ait?
\nTepkilerinin, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n, sorumluluk al\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7iminin\u2026
\nne kadar\u0131 senin se\u00e7imin, ne kadar\u0131 sana \u00f6\u011fretilmi\u015f?<\/p>\n
Bir\u00e7ok insan \u201cben buyum\u201d dedi\u011fi yerde durur.
\nAma \u00e7o\u011fu zaman o duru\u015fun alt\u0131nda,
\naileden devral\u0131nm\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez kodlar \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Sessizce.
\nFark edilmeden.
\nAma g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir \u015fekilde.<\/p>\n
Aile, Sadece Nereden Geldi\u011fimiz De\u011fil; Nas\u0131l Davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r<\/p>\n
Aile, yaln\u0131zca \u00e7ocukluk an\u0131lar\u0131ndan ibaret de\u011fildir.
\nAile;
\n\u2022\tsorumlulu\u011fu nas\u0131l ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131,
\n\u2022\ts\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 nas\u0131l kurdu\u011funu,
\n\u2022\ti\u00e7e mi d\u0131\u015fa m\u0131 d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc,
\n\u2022\td\u00fcnyaya ne kadar g\u00fcvenle bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirler.<\/p>\n
Baz\u0131 insanlar erken ya\u015fta \u201cb\u00fcy\u00fcmek\u201d zorunda kal\u0131r.
\nBaz\u0131lar\u0131 duygular\u0131n\u0131 bast\u0131rmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir.
\nBaz\u0131lar\u0131 ise g\u00f6r\u00fcnmemeyi, sessiz kalmay\u0131, y\u00fck almamay\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n
Bunlar karakter de\u011fildir.
\nBunlar aile sisteminde \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f uyum bi\u00e7imleridir.<\/p>\n
\u201cAile Kodlar\u0131\u201d G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi Ne Yapar?<\/p>\n
Lev\u00e2ic\u2019in bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi, aileyi su\u00e7lamak ya da ge\u00e7mi\u015fte kalmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil;
\nbug\u00fcnk\u00fc kimli\u011fi netle\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in yap\u0131land\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmede ki\u015fi:
\n\u2022\tKi\u015filik \u00f6zelliklerinin aile sistemi taraf\u0131ndan nas\u0131l \u015fekillendi\u011fini fark eder
\n\u2022\t\u0130\u00e7e\/d\u0131\u015fa d\u00f6n\u00fckl\u00fck e\u011filimlerinin ve odak y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcn k\u00f6kenlerini g\u00f6r\u00fcr
\n\u2022\tSorumluluk alma bi\u00e7iminin nereden geldi\u011fini anlar
\n\u2022\t\u201cBen\u201d ile \u201caileden ald\u0131klar\u0131m\u201d aras\u0131ndaki \u00e7izgiyi netle\u015ftirir
\n\u2022\tKo\u015fulsuz benlik alan\u0131 olu\u015fturmaya ba\u015flar <\/p>\n
Bu bir ge\u00e7mi\u015fi kurcalama g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi de\u011fildir.
\nBu, bug\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015ftirme g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesidir.<\/p>\n
Bu G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeden Sonra Hayatta Ne De\u011fi\u015fir?<\/p>\n
De\u011fi\u015fim y\u00fcksek sesle gelmez.
\nAma kal\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r.
\n\u2022\t\u00dczerine ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n y\u00fckler hafifler
\n\u2022\t\u201cHep ben sorumluyum\u201d hissi \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcl\u00fcr
\n\u2022\tTepkilerin otomatik olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar
\n\u2022\tKendini ailene sad\u0131k kalmadan da sevebilece\u011fini fark edersin
\n\u2022\tKimli\u011fini daha net, daha sakin bir yerden kurars\u0131n<\/p>\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k bilirsin:
\nAileni sevmek, onlar\u0131n kal\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131mak zorunda olmak de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n
Kimler \u0130\u00e7in Bu G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme \u00d6zellikle Anlaml\u0131d\u0131r?
\n\u2022\tAilesinin y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc h\u00e2l\u00e2 ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissedenler
\n\u2022\t\u201cAilem b\u00f6yleydi, ben de b\u00f6yle oldum\u201d diyenler
\n\u2022\tKi\u015filik y\u00f6nlerini yeniden anlamak isteyenler
\n\u2022\tSorumluluk bask\u0131s\u0131yla ya\u015fayanlar
\n\u2022\tKendili\u011fini ailesinden ay\u0131rmak isteyen ama su\u00e7luluk duyanlar<\/p>\n
E\u011fer bu sat\u0131rlar sende bir i\u00e7 \u00e7ekme yaratt\u0131ysa,
\norada bak\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken bir yer vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Ocak Ay\u0131 \u0130\u00e7in Bir Hat\u0131rlatma<\/p>\n
Yeni bir y\u0131l, kendini yeniden icat etmek zorunda de\u011filsin.
\nAma kendini yeniden tan\u0131mlamak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn.<\/p>\n
Lev\u00e2ic\u2019te konseptli g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeler, ki\u015fiyi etiketlemez.
\nA\u00e7\u0131klar. Netle\u015ftirir. Hafifletir.<\/p>\n
Bazen hayat zor de\u011fildir.
\nSadece sen, \u00e7ok uzun s\u00fcredir ailenin y\u00fck\u00fcyle ya\u015f\u0131yorsundur.<\/p>\n
Kim oldu\u011funu bulmak,
\n\u00f6nce kim olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark etmekle ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hayat\u0131nda verdi\u011fin kararlar\u0131n ne kadar\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten sana ait? Tepkilerinin, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n, sorumluluk al\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7iminin\u2026 ne kadar\u0131 senin se\u00e7imin, ne kadar\u0131 sana \u00f6\u011fretilmi\u015f? Bir\u00e7ok insan \u201cben buyum\u201d dedi\u011fi yerde durur. Ama \u00e7o\u011fu zaman o duru\u015fun alt\u0131nda, aileden devral\u0131nm\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez kodlar \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Sessizce. Fark edilmeden. Ama g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir \u015fekilde. Aile, Sadece Nereden Geldi\u011fimiz De\u011fil; Nas\u0131l Davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r Aile, yaln\u0131zca […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":53821,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","content-type":"","jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":{"format":"standard","jnews_video_option_group":[[]],"override":[{"template":"1","parallax":"1","fullscreen":"1","layout":"right-sidebar","sidebar":"singlepost-widget","second_sidebar":"default-sidebar","sticky_sidebar":"1","share_position":"float","share_float_style":"share-normal","show_featured":"1","show_post_meta":"1","show_post_author":"1","show_post_author_image":"1","show_post_date":"1","post_date_format":"default","post_date_format_custom":"Y\/m\/d","show_post_category":"1","show_post_reading_time":"0","post_reading_time_wpm":"300","post_calculate_word_method":"str_word_count","show_zoom_button":"1","zoom_button_out_step":"2","zoom_button_in_step":"3","show_post_tag":"1","show_popup_post":"1","show_comment_section":"1","number_popup_post":"2","show_author_box":"1","show_post_related":"1"}],"image_override":[{"single_post_thumbnail_size":"no-crop","single_post_gallery_size":"crop-500"}],"trending_post_position":"meta","trending_post_label":"Trend","sponsored_post_label":"Sponsorlu","disable_ad":"0","subtitle":"Aile Kodlar\u0131: Kim Oldu\u011funu \u015eekillendiren G\u00f6r\u00fcnmez Miras"},"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_override_bookmark_settings":{"override_bookmark_button":"0","override_show_bookmark_button":"0"},"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_paywall_metabox":{"paragraph_limit":"2","enable_premium_post":"0","enable_free_post":"0","override_paragraph_limit":"0","enable_preview_post":"0","enable_preview_video":"0"},"jnews_review":[],"enable_review":"","type":"percentage","name":"","summary":"","brand":"","sku":"","good":[],"bad":[],"score_override":"","override_value":"","rating":[],"price":[],"jnews_override_counter":{"view_counter_number":"0","share_counter_number":"0","like_counter_number":"0","dislike_counter_number":"0"},"jnews_post_split":{"post_split":[{"template":"1","tag":"h2","numbering":"asc","mode":"normal","first":"0","enable_toc":"0","toc_type":"normal"}]},"jnews_podcast_option":[],"jnews_podcast_series":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[205,634,65],"tags":[2990,2985,2979,2995,2958,2983,2996,2454,2993,1270,2992,2980,2982,2959,702,2991,2987,2984,2077,2989,2967,2986,2988,2994,1344,2981],"jnews-series":[],"class_list":["post-53842","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-iliskilerim","category-iliski-yetkinlikleri","category-kendimle-olan-iliskim","tag-aile-etkisi","tag-aile-kaliplari","tag-aile-kodlari","tag-aile-sistemi","tag-benlik","tag-disa-donukluk","tag-donusum-sureci","tag-duygusal-miras","tag-duygusal-ozgurlesme","tag-duygusal-yuk","tag-gecmisten-gelen-kaliplar","tag-gorunmez-miras","tag-ice-donukluk","tag-icgoru","tag-iliski-yetkinligi","tag-kendilik-ayrimi","tag-kimlik-olusumu","tag-kisilik-gelisimi","tag-kisisel-farkindalik","tag-kosulsuz-benlik","tag-levaic-gorusmesi","tag-ogrenilmis-davranislar","tag-otomatik-tepkiler","tag-psikolojik-miras","tag-sinir-koyma","tag-sorumluluk-alma-bicimi"],"yoast_head":"\n